J.B.
OK -your husband needs to get it together. These are special circumstances and he's just going to have to suck it up and deal! Sunday aren't his "day" anymore for a long time. Do you also have a "day"? Something tells me you don't... This is his child too as well as the other kids you have and you're his wife and it's his house. It's never too late to learn! You need to call on your in laws even though you may not be dying to do that -they could probably provide some decent help. 40 miles really isn't that much -many people commute longer than that one way every day. Create a task list for hubby and have it be mandatory things he must do on that day -for example: Monday -wash towels and kids' clothes; clean bathrooms (he can do those things in one evening); Tuesday -wash adult clothes and vacuum or mop or sweep really good; Wednesday -wash other things that need it -kitchen towels, sheets, etc. and dust furniture. Before he sits his butt down in front of the tv at night -he needs to accomplish these things just like everyone everywhere else does. And I'm sorry -there are so many "heat-n-eat" options at the grocery now -he has no excuse. If he can read; he can cook -boxes of Zatarain's mixes, mac and cheese, the amazing amount of choices for steam-n-bag veggies and pasta and meals, rotisserie chicken -there are thousands of items and a lot of them are pretty healthy that he could be fixing everyone to eat.