Has anyone here tried going on a vacation with their girlfriends, leaving the kids behind with their daddies or grandparents? Is it too selfish to even consider such a thing? And even if you did go on that vacation, was it guilt-free? Could you really enjoy the vacation without your spouse and kids being there with you?
Thanks ladies for all your inputs. I've never gone on a trip without my husband and kid. This is a good friend of mine who went to college with me and she's suggested a road trip. She doesn't have any kids. I guess that makes it easy for her. My husband is very supportive of whatever I do. He's okay if I decide to do this.
I'll let you all know if I end up doing this. Thanks again for easing my concerns.
I plan on doing it! I haven't yet as my youngest is only 2 so it's a little harder. I would start with a 3 day one and then when they get older maybe longer. But even 3 days would be awesome!! My friends and I have talked about doing one locally even (just stay in a hotel, lounge by a pool and shop:) Have fun if you decide to do it!!
I have been married 10 years, I have a 9 and 7 year old and I have gone on trips without the family 5 times. I think sometimes it is absolutely necessary to get away and recharge your batteries. My husband is very supportive. All trips have been under 3 days so more like long weekends. My husband goes to visit his parents in california once in a while without us for a weekend also, not a problem for me. I always miss my kids and hubby dearly when I go but when I come back I feel so rested and ready to be the best mom and wife I can possibly be. If your husband is ok and your children will be taken care of then you should not feel guilty :)
I think it really depends on a lot of things. Is your husband okay with it? Would it be okay with you if your husband went on vacation without you? Would you have a family vacation, too? Can your family afford it?
Like those girls do on Sex and the City? That's fine, but keep it no longer than 5 days and the hubby must get his 5 days too.
I DREAM of this! But, I'm nursing a 13 mon old and I'm not sure if any of my girlfriends are up for this/ or can afford this. *sigh*
One of my best friend's moved to Australia 4 years ago. Of course, then I was pregnant, then I had a 1 year old, then I had a 2 year old. Finally, this past year, I went for 2 weeks (my youngest being almost 3) and it was HEAVEN. A trip of a lifetime. Definitely do it.
-L.
What i would do would be to get a wifi camera so that even when your gone you could still watch the house,hubby and kids from your iPhone or Android. I bought mine from Spycameras.com and I could literally goto China and still have peace of mind and be guilt free because I can always see them. Check out their site http://bit.ly/pvq3oc
Yes, I went alone and had a blast. No guilt here. I came back refreshed and raring to go.
I went to South Beach in Miami and just lounged on the beach, read books, did the spa thing, shopped and had a ball.
Go for it... you need some mommy time!!
We've been married almost 23 yrs and we both enjoy or private getaways.
That isn't selfish at all. It's important for a woman to be able to reconnect with that part of her identity that's independent of mom/wife roles. What's wrong with having some time where you aren't responsible for anyone but yourself, and you don't have to answer questions and worry about the details? We need to destress and relax sometimes. I have been on vacation without husband and kids and it's great. No guilt! But I think that has a lot to do with the support of the husband. Mine takes the opportunity to plan lots of fun daddy/daughter activities with the kids, and sometimes with other dad friends and their daughters. In the end, we all look forward to mom's time away. When vacation is over, we all have great stories to share. I have friends who can't even go out for lunch or happy hour without getting the guilt trip from husband and kids, or without being called a number of times because they are in helpless, panic mode. In those cases, it's miserable for them and everyone around them. So the husband is really the key to being able to enjoy time away without guilt, I think.
My brother and his wife have been doing this every couple, three years for a long time. Plan way in advance, decide on a budget, be open with your spouse of where you're going, with whom and what you're doing, and offer them the same deal.
They will be celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary this year. It has worked well for them!
You deserve a trip just like your husband does. Mine had been taking yearly fishing trips and I just didn't. I finally did to a location he never would have gone with 2 great friends. The only guilt that got me was I had a hard time going to bed without saying night to my kids. It just felt odd since that's my everyday pattern. The kids enjoyed it and my husband had his parents drive up to help. Everyone enjoyed the weekend in their special way. At a minimum do an overnight stay with a friend.
No-it's not selfish. Me and my husband will do weekends away together and weekends with friends. Me and my bff just spent the weekend in ft worth. And I've also gone to Austin for the weekend with my mom. It's great time to refresh, don't feel guilty. And then pay the favor back to your husband, even if he doesn't go away but where he can get up on Saturday and Sunday and go do whatever he wants. And YES you can enjoy it!!
