My daughter will go to sleep in her bed but halfway through the night she will climb in bed with me. I have done the nightlight thing, I have left her tv on. I have even slept in her floor and when I do that she will stay in her bed, but it seems like she knows when I am not in there. I am out of options and it is a habit that I do not want to develop. What can I do to help her overcome this obstacle?
I made some progress last night for the first time in a while. I sort of combined everyone's suggestions. I got a nightlight, she has a stuffed dog that is almost as big as I am and I put it by the side of her bed. I told her that he would be there if she got scared and the nightlight was a special light for her and the doggy, in case they needed to go potty. We live in the country so I dont think the noise issue is a factor but just in case she has heard stry dogs barking or something like that I put in a classical cd and left and played it on repeat very softly. I also had a baby monitor that I dug out and told her that if she needed me to call for me and I would hear her. Her daddy was so cute he took the reciever to our room and had her call our MOMMY and DADDY and when she did that he came in her room to show her that we would hear her and come check on her. She stayed in her room until 4:30 this morning. I sort of freaked out when I woke up and she was not in bed with me and I did not here her all night. Thank you so much. It is quite a routine to start but I think that she will outgrow this sometime just did not want this to become a habit. It did with my son and the only way I broke him of it was when his sister was born and I had him in the same room with her and he said that he would listen for her and if she cried he would come get me. Dont have another baby to help her with this so once again thank you so very much to all of you.
Have a great rest of the week and God Bless all of you and your families!
Hi B.,
My 4 yr old did this some. We bought a bear (stuffed animal) that is about the size of a first grader. LOL Since we put it in the bed with him he has stopped getting out of bed. He said he didn't like sleeping by himself so we got him a bed buddy so to say. You might give it a try.
M.
OMG, if any of these ideas work for you let me know. I have 22 month old and for four weeks straight has been waking up in the middle of the night. Last night twice! We play soft music, we read to him, and we put him back in his bed. Just the other night we put the baby gate up in his door. Last night he got up twice and cried (laying up against the gate) both times for 10-15 minutes.Me and my husband put him back to bed. I'm desperate for answers.
Thanks
Take her back to her room and tell her it is still night time. An idea I heard on tv (and want to try myself) is a good morning light. It is a night light that you put on a timer. The light goes ON at whatever time you set. Tell your dgt to check the good morning light when she wakes up and if it is on, she can come to your room. My dgt doesn't come to our room but she will wake up about 5:30 and think it is time to get up. She goes right back to sleep when I tell her it is still night time.
I agree that the best tactic is to just be consistent and firm in that she just CANNOT sleep in your room. My 5-year old daughter has had spells of crawling into bed with me during the night also, and I know it is so hard to wake up and get out of that bed, but you have got to get up immediately and take her back to her room, explaining that she has her own big-girl bed and cannot sleep in yours, and tuck her in real tight. Even a few moments of cuddling before you take her back to her room can cause her more protest and make it harder for her to understand why she cannot stay. Get up immediately! And eventually, she will quit trying because she knows you're not giving in. ...At least that's how my experience has been. Good luck!
I have the same problem and finally figured out why my son does it. Where is her room? My sons room is at the front of the house and I found that sometime around 2am-4am he wakes up to traffic noise. You know, that one loud car or the person who blares the radio! Try checking in her room at different times during the night to see if it is the same problem.
Hello B.
my name is D. and I have had this same problem..how close is your room to hers? do you shut the doors at night? the best thing is no tv but maybe a radio playing softly and don't stay in the room until she goes to sleep because when she wakes up if your not there then she comes to your room but if you are then she goes back to sleep so don't get her use to you being there and let her go to sleep without you there and that way she won't be expecting to see you on her floor when she wakes up. now when she does come to your bed then you have to put her back in her bed!!! you have to do it no matter how much or how often and she will eventually get the hint that your not going to give in and then she will. Good Luck
Yes! habit I have a daughter who just turned 4 and she started that. She would get out of bed almost the same time every night and come want in the bed with us. As soon as she cracked the door (never was closed all the way) but when she would push it on open, my husband would not let her even come on in. He would call her name and say go get back in your bed not ugly but stern. There were a few times he would go and put her back but when she saw that when he said go to your bed he meant it then she doesn't get up near as much. The key is do make any changes for her because she will get used to it and it will be hard to break.
Good luck and God bless you and your family
R.
The best thing I did for my two and a half year old when he would get up in the middle of the night and crawl in bed with me was putting him back in his bed. I know it sounds simple, but it works. I had to stop letting him think it was o.k. to get up in the middle of the night to come and sleep in my bed. I would take him and put him back in his bed and told him it was time to go to sleep. It took a few nights of this and finally he got the picture. He very seldomly does it now at almost 3, but he understands that when he does I will not bend. You just have to stick to your guns! lol
I have a 2 year old that will go to sleep in his's bed but not sleep all night i know your feel.. me& my husband are justed so tried we fight all the time.. Because we are not sleep anymore..
I have a similar problem with my daughter. My daughter is two. She will fall asleep in my bed and then I will transfer her to her bed. But if she wakes up in the middle of the night, she wants to be back in my bed. After she goes back to sleep, I will do the same thing and put her in her bed. Does anyone have any advice on how to break her of that? I know its partially my fault, but I will never get sleep if I don't do it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
If all else fails as it did with us, buy her a sleeping bag! Our son used to come to our bed in the middle of the night so I bought him a sleeping bag and told him he could come in our room but he couldn't wake us up, unless something was wrong of course, and he had to sleep in his sleeping bag. After about a month of sleeping on the floor he stopped all together!
take a teddy bear or something and put a shirt that u have worn on it so ur scent is there and put it in bed with her. Maybe she will feel secure enough to stay in her own bed. It worked with one of my kids.
I recently read about and began to implement this with my own son. The Sleep Fairy. I told him she's watching him while he sleeps and when he stays in his bed all night, he may find a little reward when he wakes up under his pillow. A quarter, a small prize, or a piece of candy. He almost looks forward to going to bed now, just so he can wake up. After about 2 weeks, she will write a letter to him, commending him on how good he's been doing and to let him know that she has to go and watch over some other little children who need her, to learn how to sleep in bed all night, but she will be checking in on him. The two weeks of sleeping in bed every night is enough time to build a habit and the Sleep fairy will drop in periodically with a litle treat, to reinforce the good behavior.
