Granddaugher (9) Ignors Her (6) Bro. When She Is with Friends.

Unfortunately, this is normal. This is especially hard because it is you daughter in law. You are walking on thin ground. I'm not sure if you should say anything but if you do, you may want to suggest to the parents when the kids are present, they should speak in a positive tone by expressing they are best friends and how much they love each other. When my kids were little, I always told them they were best friends and much much the other one loved them. (I have 3 boys, ages 24,18,&15.) They are still extremely close and fought very little when they were young. They have very different personalities. I feel like I brainwashed them into thinking how lucky they were to have each other. Whatever the case, it worked! Good luck. PS. In the end, even if they aren't close now, things will probably change by the time they go off to college. I wouldn't worry about it. This is small in the big scheme of life.

Your granddaughter might be embarassed of her little brother. She might think that he is nosey, or doesnt give her privacy. She deals with him at home, so why should she at school, might be another thing she is thinking.
You might want to let her know, its ok to have a little brother. If people make fun of her because she has a little brother, then they need to get over themselves.

This is completely normal childhood behavior, and so long as she is not shoving him, or beating him up, I wouldn't be worried.

This is normal and could even get worse before it gets better. You can sit her and him down and talk to them about it. I have always pressed the importance of the people that live in our house to my kids. The people that live in our house are more important than any other people out there. A lot of that is because my brother and I just were never close. I envy people I see with close relationships with their siblings.

I would think if it doesn't bother the mother, then she isn't really pushing the closeness with them (never bothered my mother). So far with my kids, my way seems to be working, but other than my oldest they are relatively too young to see yet. Even though my dad has made several comments on how much my children really seem to love each other despite their age differences. (my dad was always working when I was a kid)

If the dad doesn't know this, he really needs to become more involved with his kids and family. That is sad that he doesn't know. My husband and I are both very aware at how our children act at home and away from home. It doesn't sound like they have a very close knit family.

Maybe if you pointed it out, it would help them become closer.
Good luck..

Ah, childhood....My sister would kick me out of OUR room when I was young when her friends would come over. We are 6 yrs a part. But no matter the age that is totally normal and you will just have to let it run it's course.

Siblings. You can't control behavior out of the home. In the home are the children respectful to each other? Above all else, my emphasis is on caring and being there for each other no matter what. At 9 a girl needs independence with her friends. So long as the boy understands, independence, and it does not affect their behavior at home.

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I feel for you. My son (9) also ignores his brother (7) whenever he is around his friends. My younger son adores him and wants to be just like his big brother. But no matter what we say to our older son, nothing seems to work. Right now I have minimized time with friends, and concetrated on them getting along.

I can not imagine more normal behavior actually. Your granddughter is at the age where it is just not cool to hang out with the little kids anymore. I would not worry at all.