I received a call from a woman saying 'I have a cell phone here that says to call this phone number if found'. At first I thought my hubby must have dropped his cell phone so I asked where she found the phone. Then the woman recognized my voice and said 'Oh hi. Its XXXXX. Your son left his cell phone at home today and I was scrolling through it and didn't recognize the call if lost phone number. It must be your home phone.' I said it was and we chatted for a couple minutes.
I've been bothered by this ever since. Of course my number is his lost phone phone number. He doesn't have a home phone and since I work at home the chances of me being here to help locate his lost phone is better than him leaving his office phone number. So what do you think. Odd that she'd call instead of just asking him? Odd that she'd be going through his phone?
edited to add that the phone belonged to my son who left his phone at home yesterday. The woman calling was his girlfriend who frequently stays at his apartment. She was on his phone while he was at work (although she did have both her call phone and computer at his apartment) and called a number that was marked 'If you find my lost phone'.
Love everyone's answers. Personally I don't care about the details of my son's relationship with XXXXX. He's a good guy who works very hard and is going to school for a master's degree. My phone is an open book for anyone to use but I'd be a little uneasy about anyone calling someone on my phone asking who was reached by that phone number. I can understand her being nosy but I would have googled the phone number not called it. I think I'll let my son know about the call and suggest he update the number to my cell phone since I always have that with me.
Thanks everyone for your input on this. She could end up being my daughter in law somewhere down the road so I want to keep the relationship good and not be THAT mother in law.
i don't understand. if he left his cell phone at home, who was she?
very weird that she a) knew he 'left it at home' and b) thought it necessary to report it 'lost'- it was at 'home', right? and c) found it appropriate to scroll through his phone for any reason.
all of this is weird.
doesn't his phone have an access code?
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khairete
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You didn't recognize her voice or number either?
If he left his cell at home and she was going through it? Yeah...I'd be bothered by that.
If he had lost his phone and it was someone you didn't know? I wouldn't be bothered.
So your son's girlfriend pretended she found his lost phone as an excuse to call the number and see who answered?
She thinks your son is cheating. Whether or not she has a reason, we can't possibly know. The two of them will have to work it out.
was it your husbands phone or sons phone? are you bothered that his girlfriend is looking through his phone? I am sooooo lost right now.
Sounds like she was snooping and checking up on him, but that is none of your business, that is between him and her.
Sounds like she told you exactly what she did. She was scrolling through his phone and saw a number she didn't recognize, got curious and called it to see what it was and why it was his 'lost phone' number.
I don't think it's odd, because she wasn't trying to locate him, she was trying to snoop out a number she didn't recognize. At least she admitted it! She didn't even really try to cover the fact that she was just being nosy about the numbers in his phone. She said he left it there, she was scrolling through, and decided to call the unfamiliar number.
You kind have to put yourself back in the "girlfriend" shoes... your guy left his phone at your house... just sitting there... all alone... do you scroll around in it? probably.
She at least owned up to it. Sounds like a snooping girlfriend who got egg on her face (have her boyfriend's mother be the person on the receiving end).
I'm hoping she is a young adult (not sure if she is 38 or 18 based on the info). She sounded insecure or jealous and wanted to find out who the number belonged to.
I say give the girl a break unless you have other reasons to think she is odd.
Um yeah, it's odd. :/
All I can think is that she was bothered that she was not the "call if lost" # and wanted to know who was, then when she realized it was you, she was OK. Otherwise, I can't imagine why she'd then tell you the truth & chat with you.
This would irk me, and I might talk to my son about it, but it's possible she has problems that he knows about (like BPD or something along those lines), so if he doesn't want to discuss it, I wouldn't push.
Good luck,
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Your son's girlfriend saw he left his phone at home and was snooping through it. She probably checked all his texts, checked his emails (if it's a smart phone) and checked who he has been calling. She is the type of person who is untrusting, gets jealous, and snoops. Maybe he gives her a reason to not trust him. Maybe he does not. It shows something about her character...but there are a lot of people like this in the world.
He left his phone at home, how was she going to call him and ask?
She got caught snooping. He obviously has nothing to hide because he left his phone laying around and his "lost phone #" is his mom. So she feels better... except for now she's worried you'll let him know she's a snoop!
It is a bit odd. If your number is the "call if found" number, because you already know he's hard to reach at work, then maybe she didn't figure there was much point in calling him at work either. Maybe she wanted to know who he chose as his "go to" person - then when she realized it was a) his mother and b) someone she knew, she relaxed and started chatting.
If they are together, no, she shouldn't really "go through" his phone, but he shouldn't have secrets either. If they have trust issues, it's between them, not either of them and you.
I'd mention it to him about how funny it was to get a call from a number you didn't recognize, and to have her call a number she didn't recognize, and lo and behold, there you were on the phone together. See how he reacts. If he has a reason to be concerned about her, you'll have let him know. If it's fine, you'll have a little laugh. Otherwise, they are adults, and you have to leave their relationship and privacy issues to them.
It's a little odd. Not unheard of I'm sure. Some people don't really care about stuff like that, other people - it would be a violation of their trust. I guess it depends on how they feel about it. If it bothers you, you can casually mention it to your son and let him handle it? That's probably what I would do :)
Maybe she thought he really needed to have his phone and wasn't able to reach him at work. Maybe she didn't try him at work because his phone had a "If you find my lost phone ... " and thought that's what he would want her to do. Maybe she wanted to make sure that number wasn't attached to another girl (because she's insecure). There are a thousand different reasons she might have called you.
Did she tell you why she called?
LOL! I think Jill is right!!
This falls under the category we refer to in our house as NoneYa, as in None of Ya Business. He might have given her permission to go through the phone, she might think he's cheating, she just might be uber curious. You'll never know, and its not your business to ask.
She was just curious. I'd be curious too. I don't have that sort of thing on my phone. I label mine "Home".
